5 Breastfeeding Essentials


When I recently had my son, Kason, I thought I knew a lot about breastfeeding and would instantly know how to do it. Its natural, right?!? Little did I know, I would be completely clueless!!! My journey to successful breastfeeding is still being written, TRUST ME, but as a newbie these are the items I have found to be the most helpful, important, and help me to feel MOSTLY normal.

1. Breast Pump: The most expensive, and probably least necessity for me, but used everyday item is my breast  pump. My insurance covered my breast pump, so look into that to save some money. I use the Spectra 2. It was one of like 5 options my insurance gave me. I chose it on a total whim. I knew nothing about it, but it worked out great for me and is SUPER easy to use.  I will say, a breast pump will be essential if you plan on going back to work and want to keep your baby on breastmilk.

2. Nursing Pads: If you have breast fed before, you know there is nothing worst than finally getting yourself ready after weeks of being a hermit and just surviving newborn life, to look down and see your lovely outfit soaking wet from leaky boobs. It happened to me, so spare yourself the pain and wear some nursing pads. I use these washable ones, but I also have disposable ones because sometime they are way more convenient.

3. Haakaa: This little guy is my MOST used item! I use this at every single feeding, unless we are in public, because I would literally be exposing my all of my chest. I am not comfortable with that for myself, but you do you! & if you use this and know how to be more discrete, send me your tips!. Anyway, this is a little silicone “pump” that uses suction to stick to your breast handsfree and catch the extra let down.

4. Water: So this is something you likely already do, but I did not know how much water I was actually going to need to drink while breastfeeding. I have probably doubled my water intake. I see a lot of people across the internet suggesting half your body weight in ounces of water per day. My milk supply is definitely decreased when I am not drinking enough water. An easy way I make sure I get enough is to drink a big glass of water with every feeding!

5. Nipple Balm: This was so important in the beginning! My lactation consultant in the hospital said we had a great latch, no tongue/ lip tie, and everything seemed great, but my nipples still cracked, they were still sore, and even bled. Let me say this: IT GOT SO MUCH BETTER! After a few weeks, my nipples toughened up, my babies mouth got bigger, we both learned what worked and was comfortable for both of us. So don’t let that scare you. Get some nipple balm and breastfeed on!

Hopefully at least one of these will help you if you are a breastfeeding newbie. I think these are by far the most essential items to get you going on your breastfeeding journey. Their are hundreds of products/tips out there, but these are what really worked for us at the end of the day!

With Love,



EASY Chicago Style Deep Dish Pizza

I just HAVE to share this because it was so good! I never make pizza at home, and I had never made deep dish pizza specifically at home. We love deep dish pizza, and none of our local pizza joints carry the Chicago style we like. So I thought i would try to make it at home. Truthfully, I wasn’t sure how this was going to turn out. It sounded easy and yummy, but new recipes don’t always work out. Even though I was unsure, this was SOOOO GOOD!!!! Totally met the Chicago style craving and I was thoroughly impressed with how simple it was.


This is not 100% my recipe. I got it out of this cook book. I altered it a bit because we like different things in our pizza, and a true deep dish has sauce on top in this house!

Here is the recipe:

Preheat oven to 425*. Recipe serves about 8.


  • 1 package yeast
  • 1 cup warm water
  • 1 tsp. sugar
  • 1 tsp. salt
  • 2 Tbs. vegetable oil
  • 2 cups flour


  • 1 lb. brown hamburger
  • 1 16oz. can tomatoes drained
  • 1 Tbs. minced onion
  • 1 tsp. oregano
  • 1 tsp. salt (I salted to taste)
  • 1/4 tsp. pepper (Same here)
  • 1/8 tsp. garlic powder
  • 1 small green pepper diced
  • 1 4oz. can of mushrooms
  • 1 cup shredded mozzarella cheese


Cook hamburger until no longer pink, drain. Dissolve yeast in warm water. Stir in remaining crust ingredients. I mixed with my hand until a dough ball formed. Let it rest about 5 minutes while you mix tomatoes, onion, oregano, salt, pepper, and garlic powder together. Break up tomatoes with a fork. OR I just bought crushed tomatoes and added the other ingredients.

Press dough evenly into a greased pan and halfway up the sides. You could do one 13 x 9 in pan or two 9 in cake pans for a round pizza. If you use cake pans push dough all the way up sides. Sprinkle in hamburger, bell pepper, mushrooms. Top with cheese. Spoon sauce over top of cheese. Bake at 425 for about 25 minutes, although if you light a darker crunchy crust leave in 3-5 minutes longer.

  • I did top our one pizza with some pepperoni and both with parmesan cheese.


With Love,


My Baby Registry

Now that my second trimester is in full swing, and honestly already dwindling down to the third I have been spending time thinking about what we really need for baby’s arrival. I am incredibly blessed to be having two baby showers put on by my friends and family, and so I have put together a baby registry in preparation for the celebration.

Lots of people gave me suggestions on where to register, but in the end I went with Babylist. It is a website that basically allows you to register for items from whatever website you please. Which is really nice!!! I have items from big baby stores and from little online shops. It is also nice because it is in one place, and for many items they show other sites it can be purchased for varying prices.

As many of you know, I like natural, eco, green, crunchy, whatever you might call it product for myself and family, but truthfully not everything I use is organic or natural. I would call myself “crispy” or “light green”. I use what works, what I like, and try to pick what is safe and healthy too. Same goes for things I have picked out for baby. So here it is, what this “Crispy” Mama wants for baby!

  1. Muslin Swaddles: I chose this Cloud Island brand because they seemed affordable, came in a three pack, and are certified to have not used any chemical or dyes that are harmful to babies!
  2.  Waterproof sheet: I debated as to whether or not we really needed this, but since we have chosen a pack-n-play for our co-sleeping I felt it was needed. Pack-n-play pads are large, kind of bulky, and can’t be stuffed in the washing machine. This particular one is lined with TPU, which is one of the safer options in waterproof baby products.
  3. Ring Sling: I knew from the beginning I would get one of these. Baby wearing has a ton of benefits. There is a lot of research about how proximity in general with your new baby is fabulous. I PRAY baby feels comfortable in them. I have picked out two, both in neutral colors! I picked the two for the fabric it was made from. Some fabrics are better than others for baby wearing and for breathability.
  4. Cutie Clip: I have to share this for a few reasons. ONE: The shop owner, Lindsey, is incredibly sweet! TWO: The designs, colors, and safety certification she has on all of her products makes them awesome. I really love how much attention is placed on safety, as well as, functionality of all the products she sells.
  5. Breast Pump: I picked this particular one because it does not need batteries or electricity to work. It works by creating suction. I have read several reviews and most people seem to like it, especially for on the go or travel. It is BPA free and can be put in the dishwasher too!
  6. Nursing Bra Pads: Were you gift a ton of free samples of bra pads? I was! They came in every welcome box, OB gift bag, and maternity/baby store rewards program. I hate them! I have never breastfed, so maybe they aren’t so bad. I do not know for sure, but what I can say is that they look like a disposable menstrual pad and feel about as itchy and sticky as one too. That is why I have chosen washable bra pads instead. The ones I chose had great reviews, machine washable, and everyone mentioned that they were soft!
  7. Cloth Diapers: We are giving cloth diapers a shot! We really like how they can save us money, and how they are also good for baby and planet. We chose these particular ones because the insert is removable, several other both diapering mamas’ suggested them, and they are easy to find.
  8. Baby Wash and Lotion: I chose the Honest company brand because I have heard nothing but positive things. They are known for having pretty clean ingredients and for being gentle. I have picked out the lavender scent for now, and I even am hoping to use their nipple balm.
  9. Pacifier: This is something I am not sure if we will use or not. I sucked on my hands and fingers as a child, and my husband used neither. If our baby chooses neither that is fine, but I know breaking a pacifier habit is easier that a finger ones because fingers are attached to the child, pacifiers aren’t. Also, there is research that supports pacifiers being better options for developing mouth and teeth out of the two. I chose this particular one for the lack of chemicals, seams, and comes in a shape good for breastfed babies.
  10. Toilet Sprayer: You might be thinking “What the HECK is a toilet sprayer?”, but let me just say when I came across this I instantly became less worried about touching whatever ends up in the cloth diaper. Basically its a tiny sprayer that attaches the the clean water from your toilet. You can use it spray off and diapers in need and them flush everything down the toilet where it belongs. Before I saw this, I was wondering what I would do with especially soiled diapers. This solves the problem!

This is not my full list. I have other things like plain onesies, newborn mitts, little bibs, and baby monitor like most new parents. These just happen to be items I chose because of the safety, clean ingredient or manufacturing, or because they were something I didn’t know existed. Baby isn’t here yet, so I can not say whether the items will be worth it or work for us. I have high hopes for them, and chose items I felt comfortable using and seemed to be well loved by other mamas.

Are you pregnant? Have children already? First time mom like me? Share with me in the comments what you are registering for, or what worked for you!!!

With Love,


Favorite Essential Oils

I have talked about essential oils before on here. I might sound a bit like a broken record, but truthfully they are something I really love and use daily. Since I talk about them so much, I thought it might be nice to know which ones I use most often and how I use them. pexels-photo-932577.jpeg

The first thing you should know about essential oils before I talk about my favorites is that they are used three ways, aromatically with inhalation, topically like on the skin, or some can be taken internally like orally. With that said, not all oils are created equal. DO NOT put anything on your skin or in your body if it is not intended for that use. I use Young Living because I love there Seed to Seal process. They seem to be one of the most transparent companies I have found. They also tell you how each oil can be used, so there isn’t any guessing if something is safe to use a certain way.



  1. Lavender: These are in not particular order, but I thought I would start here because this oil does everything under the sun. My favorite way is the diffuse it. Especially at bed time because it is such a relaxing and calming scent. It is also nice to add to a bath! While I diffuse it regularly, it can be used for other things like bug repellent or diluted topically for minor burns or skin irritation.
  2. Lemon: Lemon is another multipurpose oil. It also smells amazing! Something about lemon screams clean and positivity to me. I diffuse it in the kitchen often, but I also like to add some to water for a bright lemon punch! Lemon is also REALLY good at getting rid of nasty scents. Like when I leave leftovers in the fridge too long, or stinky shoes. P.S. Lemon is in the YL cleaner I use all the time!
  3. Purification: This is a blend of essential oils exclusive to YL, but it is a favorite because it does things that Lavender and Lemon both do. Purification does what its name suggests, but it can repel bugs, be used topically on bee stings or bug bites, get rid of yucky smells, and it is another scent I find uplifting.
  4. Peppermint: This was not always a favorite. I used to find the scent so overpowering, but I have found I was probably just using too much. A drop or two is literally all you need. In the winter I add this to hot chocolate and it is AMAZING, but it also can be good for headaches and nausea. Just smell it straight from the bottle! I also use this to get rid of spiders. They do not like it, and I do not like them! I also like to dilute one drop of peppermint in about a quarter size dollop of coconut oil and rub on my skin. Especially during the summer. It creates a light cooling sensation that feels nice to me!
  5. Thieves: This is another blend from YL. I have talked about this one before. Thieves is in all of YL cleaning/home care items. I use it to clean in my home. When we were  avoiding the flu over the winter we diffused it often. It doesn’t beat hand washing and taking good care of yourself, but it can help out an already healthy immune system keep up the good work! It also can be taken internally. I drink apple cider vinegar, but it isn’t pleasant, so I add by serving of vinegar to apple cider or juice,  heat it up, and add a drop of thieves for a warm spicy cinnamon and clove flavor!
  6. PanAway: This is my husbands favorite. It has a pretty specific purpose in our house. Sore muscles! This oil MUST be diluted. Do not make the mistake of not doing so. Your skin will feel tingly for hours. It isn’t painful, but unpleasant if you do not dilute a little bit. We dilute with coconut oil and use it as a muscle rub. Sometime it’s after a good workout and other times it is used because we slept all wrong. When I worked on my feet all day, it felt amazing after my shower to rub some PanAway on my feet slip into to socks and put those feet up!
  7. Stress Away: This is another favorite of my husband. The name kind of says it all, but if you are in need of a little relaxation this oil is great. We like it at bedtime, during quiet times of the day, or it is also really nice to add to your wrist or behind your ears if you know you have a busy or stressful day ahead of you. We use it in a roller ball most often, but it is also nice to diffuse. I even like to wear it as a perfume! I think it smells somewhere between a tropical beach, and the spa. Something about it is so soothing!
  8. Frankincense: This is a wonderful oil, but I use it sparingly because it is also one of the pricer ones. The scent is very woodsy, earthy, kind of masculine to me, but there is something so special about it. I love to diffuse this at night before bed, during prayer or quiet time, and I have recently be adding a drop to the coconut oil I have been rubbing on my belly during pregnancy. I often hear people using it for anointing their homes or others. It can also be great for aging skin! Add a drop to your favorite moisturizer for great skin!

I have so many more oils that I love and use, but these have been my favorites over the last few years I have been using essential oils. I really suggest that if you are interested in getting essential oils you take time to do research on what oils are good for what you are trying to do with them. More and more information is coming out, as they have been gaining popularity recently. Which is funny because essential oils have been used since ancient times, but everything comes back in style again right?!?

If you get YL essential oils and you want good information about how to use your oils more in-depth I suggest checking out “Reference Guide for Essential Oils, by Connie and Alan Higley”. You can get it here or here! This is the book I have and it has been very helpful to me.

I also just want to say that if you use essential oil in or on your body, please talk to your healthcare provider! Essential oils are powerful and can interact with things like medicine you already take. If you aren’t sure of something, it is always best to run it by a healthcare professional you trust.

Surviving the 1st Trimester


If you didn’t know, I am expecting! I am now into my second trimester and It is SOOOO much better than the first. If you are in your first trimester and feel miserable, I feel for you! I also want you to know it gets better. I promise! I was incredibly sick for the first 17 weeks. I threw up everyday. Most days all day. I lost about 20 lbs. I lived off of crackers, toast, and clear soda. Oh and that anti-nausea prescription, I threw that up too. So much for that!

With all of that said, I made it and you will too. That sweet babe you get in 9 months is worth it, and your body knows what it is doing. Hang in there mama! Here is some things that helped me!

  • Preggo Pops: I was worried the sugar in these would send me into the bathroom, but they did not! They had just enough sour to settle my stomach, slightly sweet to taste good, and had ingredients that are know to help with morning sickness. Order them ASAP!
  • Ginger Ale: I drank this everyday all day. Water wouldn’t stay down. I was terribly afraid of being dehydrated, but this liquid stayed down. While I wouldn’t normally suggest copious amounts of soda, in this case do it!
  • Sleep: I was extremely tired. I noticed my sickness was far worse when I didn’t take time to rest. It can be hard to rest because all the responsibilities are still there and you feel like why can’t I just do what I normally do, but I had to remember that my body was doing really BIG things in the first trimester. Listen to your body and take that nap, sleep in, and go to bed early when you can.
  • Ginger tea: Maybe ginger ale isn’t your thing. Try ginger tea. Sometime I was sick of drinking soda and tea was a nice change of pace. Ginger ale settled my stomach more personally, but ginger tea is healthier and doesn’t contain the sugar like the soda
  • Eat regularly: Do not get hungry! Hungry was no good. If I didn’t eat I would for sure find myself in the bathroom. Low blood sugar can cause morning sickness, so it is good to eat regularly to stabilize blood sugar levels.
  • Talk about it: At one point I got the blues. I was really upset about how sick I had been. I love cooking and eating yummy food. I like getting dressed and feeling like a normal human. My house was a mess. The laundry was piling up. I was sick of crackers. My husband worked 6 days a week. I hadn’t showered in days. I was beginning to think I am not cut out for this. I knew women who had multiple kids, jobs, and housework who had it together while pregnant, and I was just trying to stay alive. It was really hard at first. I am so glad I talked to people who love and support me because I was feeling pretty bad about myself. Not to mention all the hormones! They tell you crazy things about yourself that just aren’t true. You are made for this. You will be a good mama. It will get better. Know that!

Hang in there friends! The first trimester can be tough. I never imagined that I would be so sick. I didn’t know of anyone who was as sick as me, and I definitely didn’t know anyone who felt down about pregnancy like I did at first. Your body is doing incredible things. Listen to your body. Take care of yourself. Reach out for help. It gets better. You will make it to the “middle magic”. Try some of these things. I can’t say you’ll feel 100%, but I can promise this too shall pass. Much love and many prayers to those who are also growing and raising children!


10 Ways to Save on Groceries!

My household only consists of two people I feed everyday. My husband and myself. While it might only be two people, I am home most days now and eat every meal at home. When I first stayed home I found myself eating out, not having enough food for a decent meal, or not wanting to eat the same things over and over again. This cost me many $$$.


So what did I do….. went to the grocery store. Bought ALL OF THE THINGS! Spent $180 on that food. We don’t have money for $180 to be spent on food each week so I can fulfill my cravings, not to mention that most of what I got was absolutely terrible for me. With that experience, I search for ways I saved on groceries in the past and new ones I could use going forward. I went from $180 in crap food to $50-$60 in groceries each week that made real meals, fed me and my husband 3 times a day + snacks (21 meals for two people), and it wasn’t complete garbage food. I think that is pretty darn good, so I am sharing my favorite and easiest ways to save on groceries!

  1. Keep your staples stocked. In my pantry I almost always keep rice, quinoa, and lentils. They are all pretty cheap and add bulk to meals. They are also healthy! I also keep things like flour, sugar, a few spices we use on everything stocked all the time. If the store is having a sale, or I happen to have a coupon (Although I almost never have coupons) I might buy an extra. A few other things I try to stock: dried pasta, baking soda/powder, Beans, oil, vinegar, oatmeal, pasta sauce, and broth. By keeping these things stocked you can round out meals, add extra flavor, and cook from scratch which is $$$ saving!

  2. Look in your Fridge. When I go to the store and do not check out my fridge or pantry before I go, I usually end up with something I didn’t need or forget something I did actually need. It is so easy to open my fridge and see we are out of almond milk, but still have eggs. Except when I don’t do that I forget almond milk and bring home more eggs. This is also how I make my grocery list which I the MOST IMPORTANT thing I do to save money.

  3. Make a LIST. This goes hand in hand with checking out your pantry and fridge before you go. Making a list helps me to stay on track, and not buy the yummy looking pizza rolls when I don’t really need them in the first place. (But honestly, I love pizza rolls.) Also, this helps me to make sure I have complete and nutritious meals for the week. Otherwise I end up with odds and ends. I am  then running back to the store for chicken for stir fry, tomato juice for chili, and cheese for tacos because I didn’t think about any of that before I went to the store. Which adds up in various ways. From gas back and forth, to the other stuff I bought instead of the things I actually needed that will probably go bad before I use them.

  4. AlDI. I know this is a particular store, and not everyone may be close to one. If by chance you have one in your area, PLEASE GO! I once many years ago thought Aldi had poor quality, or expired food. That isn’t the case. Aldi has amazing food! Lots of organic and gluten free options, and usually has everything I need. Plus, the prices will blow you away! I get eggs for .99 cents. Avocados on special for .59 cents. Not to mention great meat prices. I bought meat from Aldi and from a big chain grocery store same day ( I forgot my list….), and my Aldi meat was fresher longer. I went to use the big chain meat, it looked slimy and wasn’t to expire in 4 days. Not my Aldi stuff! I exclusively shop at Aldi for all of my groceries. I always get great product and save tons of money!

  5. Plan Ahead. This has been hard since becoming pregnant. On the day I plan all  of the meals I chose sounded great, but come Thursday those meals don’t sound good because I have this major craving for Chinese take out or Mexican food. With that said, if plan for the meals I am going to eat I am less likely to end up eating out normally. I don’t end up with take out because I have meals I am looking forward to, or because I know I have what I need to make a yummy meal at home. Notice a trend?!?!? Planning is key! Makes all the difference.

  6. Skip the coupons. I am not against coupons. I use them. I especially love them when they are for clothes or shoes, but not at the grocery store usually. They usually take a good bit of time to cut, find, or print. They are also usually for a certain brand, a specific product, and I find that it isn’t usually on the things I keep stocked or use all of the time. Which is okay, because I could plan for a meal with X particular item, but I don’t know that the time and effort spent finding a coupon is worth the savings. I will say, if you are super savy with coupons and know how to get 10 jars of pasta sauce for a penny that is amazing! I just do not know how to do that, and don’t find coupons helpful items like produce and meat which is where the bulk of my money is going for groceries.

  7. Apps. Something I use in place of coupons is rebate apps. My favorite one is Checkout 51. I like Checkout 51 because they usually list brands and products I buy anyway, and they also have a general section where you can redeem rebates on products that aren’t a specific brand. For example, there might be a rebate for milk and it doesn’t matter the brand, if it is nut milk, cow’s milk, or some other kind of milk. It is easier than coupons for me because everything is in one place and you get money by just uploading your receipt. Also if you don’t redeem anything else, every week they have uploaded receipts for $60 or more are entered in $500 giveaway.

  8. Rewards. If the grocery store you shop at offers a rewards program join it. Especially if it is free! I don’t plan my shopping trips around coupons, rebates, or rewards, but rewards are great because it is usually as simple as swiping your “rewards card” or putting in a phone number. Like I said, I don’t plan my groceries around sales. I just don’t take the time to do that, but at checkout it is so easy to swipe my rewards card and usually I save a few cents to a couple dollars. Every bit helps, especially when it couldn’t be more easy!

  9. Make meals go farther. This kind of goes with planning, but it is worth sharing! If you can take one meal and use leftovers, or save something from the meal to complete another it saves money and usually time too! My favorite way to do this is to make a whole roasted chicken one night for dinner. Save the bones/meat and make soup. Or we eat all the meat and just make broth because it is a kitchen staple. Either way, if I can take something we were going to throw away and make it purposeful for a second meal, its like free food! I have a recipe here for making broth from bones.

  10. Farmers Market. This is my favorite way to save money! Going to the Farmers Market is fun, supports local families and farmers, and saves money. If you frequently shop at the farmers market, you will probably get to know the people you always buy from. It is not just a great way to make a friend, but it is also good for saving money because they can tell you which is the best deal, some might cut you a deal, or they can guide you to items in season which tend to be easier to find and cheap. I also like the farmers market for special items that can be really costly t the grocery store. Fancy goat cheese spread, speciality breads, and organic products are plentiful at the farmers market and are much cheaper because you are buying straight from the source!

  11. BONUS!!!!! I hated this when I heard it because in my mind ALL of the good stuff is in the middle, but shop the priemeter of the store! It is usually much much much healthier, gives opportunity to make meals from scratch, and it is usually where you save money. Boxed and prepackaged meals are not good you and usually cost extra for the packaging, prepared product, and chemicals that keep its shelf life. I once had someone say you could take care of your body now with healthy food, or pay the cost of healthcare and medicine later. While it might not be right now specific savings on groceries today, I know one medical bill could buy me groceries for a month or years depending on the cost. Healthy is ultimately money saving!



3 Things That Transformed My Relationships


I am usually pretty happy, outgoing, and can be quite social if I choose to be. While these sound like characteristics of a extrovert, I am definitely a introvert. It doesn’t always work in my favor. I need alone time. I need quiet time. I need time to recharge after being with a lot of people. But my biggest struggle with being an introvert isn’t any of those things, it is making meaningful connections and relationships with people.

I don’t think I am socially awkward. It isn’t the talking or connecting with people that is hard, it is making meaningful ones that lead to strong friendships and relationships with people.

My husband is great at this. People almost always love him. They like being his friend. He keeps friends forever and makes new ones no problem. While it is a piece of cake for him, it isn’t that easy for me. However, I am on the road to being more intentional and not being afraid to put myself out there to make those meaningful relationships and connections with people.

I have three things that are currently and have already transformed existing relationships and are helping me to build new ones with less fear. I genuinely hope they help you to create stronger relationship you currently have, develop new ones, and transform the way you interact with people wherever you fall on the spectrum.

  1. Read The 5 Love Languages. This book made ALL of the difference in my life. It is by Dr. Gary Chapman. I read it when I first met my now husband. I thought we had a good relationship. Sure, we fought and argued sometimes, but doesn’t every couple? Yeah. People fight. That is normal, but you know what decreased significantly after I read this book? FIGHTING. I honestly cannot think of a serious argument we have had since then. I can’t say this book will or will not do that for you, but I can say it helped me to understand, appreciate, and love my husband better. After reading this I found that my husband showed me love all day everyday, but before the book clued me in I was missing it. Yes, this book is geared towards romantic relationships but the principles can be used with your children, your family, and friends. I promise!

  2. Reach out. I do not do this enough. I know that. I get caught up in housework, appointments, and daily tasks. I forget to reach out. Ask how someone is doing. Wish them a happy birthday. Let them know I have been thinking about them. It isn’t that I don’t want to do these things, or that they haven’t actually been on my mind. It is that I don’t slow down to take the time to do it. With a little planning, and I mean very little, I am able to get out a birthday card. Remember they have a big interview coming up. Wish them luck. Ask how their vacation was. Let them know they are on my mind. I put reminders in my phone. It might seem like a task or chore by doing it this way to some, but it helps me to stay on top of it and to let others know I really care even though life is sometimes busy.

  3. Let go of fear. This one I need more help with than the rest. The book gave me practical tips and brought me to the light, reaching out is as simple as making time, but letting go of fear is easier said, than actually done. I for some reason am so afraid of rejection that probably doesn’t even exist. I am terrified to join new groups or clubs on my own. I usually wait for an invite instead of inviting others to do things with me. I am so scared of being told “I can’t come.” “I am busy.” “I have other plans.” Or worse, showing up somewhere alone and being the one who knows nobody. I am slowly saying no to fear. My word for 2018 is FEARLESS. It is my mission, because I know that beyond my fear is meaningful and strong friendships if I can just let go. I have a couple scriptures I am using to help myself, but I by no means claim this to be the thing I rock at. It’s a work in progress, but I identify the need and that is transforming in itself.

Here is my encouragement:

‘This is my command—be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”’ Joshua 1:9

‘For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.’ 2 Timothy 1:7

‘For I hold you by your right hand— I, the Lord your God. And I say to you, ‘Don’t be afraid. I am here to help you.’ Isaiah 41:13

‘Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. ‘ Philippians 4:6